Stress-Free Potty Training: A Commonsense Guide to Finding the Right Approach for Your Child by Sara Au and Peter L. Stavinoha
No two children experience the toilet-training process in exactly the same way. While some kids might be afraid to even go near the bathroom, others may master the actual act right away. “Stress-Free Potty Training” takes the anxiety out of this challenging rite of passage. The book differentiates the common childhood personality types, providing easy techniques to suit kids who are: goal-oriented, sensory-oriented, internalising, impulsive and strong-willed. Parents will find much needed advice to help them identify what ideas will work for their child’s temperament. This straight-talking guide enables readers to help any child make this important life transition free of worry, and in the way that’s right for them.
Filled with straight talk and practical advice, the second edition of Stress-Free Potty Training takes the anxiety out of this important life transition, helping you identify what approach will be most compatible with your child’s temperament. Starting with a simple quiz, the book provides easy techniques tailor-fit for all kinds of kids, whether they’re stubborn or willful, clinging to diapers, afraid to move on, or just late bloomers. The book shows you how to:
• Determine your child’s readiness to begin potty training
• Build on each success by gradually moving your child past his or her existing comfort zone (without adding undue pressure)
• Be a positive potty role model
• Handle accidents and temporary setbacks
• And more
Fully revised, the second edition includes brand new “Universal Strategies” . . . updated techniques for overcoming the common challenges and obstacles you’re likely to face with your child . . . ways to utilize the latest apps and websites that can be helpful during training . . . pitfalls to avoid on social media . . . and up-to-the-minute guidance on how to deal with interruptions and problems throughout the process.
This encouraging and practical guide helps you design a path around your own child’s needs, allowing you to say goodbye to diapers . . . with as little stress as possible.
So, if you’re reading this review, or any review, you’re probably wondering three things. Is it worth reading? Does it help? And does it free you from stress?
Stress-Free Potty Training makes good on its claim up there in the ad copy. Read at the right time, before your child starts potty training, this’ll reduce your anxiety about the process.
Is it worth reading? I think so. Again it’s probably a matter of timing. We went into potty training with what might generously be termed a smattering of book learnin’, anecdotal testimony, and assurances from every quarter that each child is different. We wouldn’t know our challenges, in other words, until we faced them.
That’s where Stress Free Potty Training comes in handy. First child? No experience? It’s got you. The information’s thoughtfully organized. What is potty training? What kind of child are you dealing with? What works for everyone? What works for your child? What are some common obstacles and how do you overcome them? Every child might be different, but you can enter into situation armed with good information and advice.
It might not be perfect. Our child is a textbook example of three of the types with some of the rest thrown in for good measure. But it’s possible to sort of triangulate even such a complex character and address specific concerns, even form a comprehensive strategy.
So, yes, it does help. I received a review copy well into our process and was able to apply some more effective techniques right away. I rather wish I’d picked it up sooner.
The most valuable part of the book might have been the skills acquisition chart. We learned that our child had mastered some simple and some advanced skills and sort of skipped over or entirely ignored others. It was both heartening and also maybe a little embarrassing. Needless to say we filled in the gaps and things began to run much more smoothly.
Obviously I haven’t read every potty training book, but I liked and benefited from another Au/Stavinoha book: Stress-Free Discipline. So this was a good fit. It didn’t eliminate our stress, but it’s helped reduce it. And instead of offering pithy advice, I’d recommend it and the time required to read it for parents with questions or concerns.
Recommended for parents who were only children, parents with the toddler/infant combo, and those motivated to be ready for challenges.